AGING GRACEFULLY

In today’s times of remaining forever young, there appears to be a war on aging, evident from the plethora of products and procedures available in the market. Why a frenzy to remain young forever? Is there a crime in looking your age? Why does only youth equate to capability, intelligence, and beauty for society? Our body changes, why not embrace it and learn to be fit and healthy instead of wasting time and money on expensive potions?  

When we were small children, growing older was like an achievement, so when did this change into not looking your age? I never quite understand the antipathy towards growing old. Negative stereotypes are present more than ever and social media adds fuel to the fire. Women are judged more harshly as society devalues them as they age. Why is aging a misogynistic concept? Why do women feel proud not to look their age or do not like to reveal their age? Why have we put them into a frame? Our culture and its directive are too loud in favour of not looking your age while indirectly giving the message that aging is not desirable. 

When we see the appearance of some grey strands and some fine lines on our faces in the mirror, we miss our younger selves. The desire to pick up the potions of youth is absolutely normal as there is nothing wrong with a youthful appearance. The problem starts when we start obsessing about it and feel small without it and go into denial mode. There is no need to go down the rabbit hole of sadness about gaining a few greys or lines on your face. When we accepted the changes of puberty in our bodies why not the greys and wrinkles?

Overcoming negative stereotypes about aging is important in our society which venerates youth. Healthy and radiant should be your aim instead of obsessing about not looking your age. The feeling of awe and a sense of wonder keep us young at heart which is more important than using all the potions to look young. 

Aging well is remaining a curious child at heart and constantly learning to keep the brain young. Social interactions not only reinforce the feeling of belongingness but also deepen our bond with our loved ones which is all the more important as we age in years in life. Enriching our environment with colours, plants bring us joy and enriches our life. Gardening can take you a notch higher toward your well-being in life. Staying connected with our loved ones through the internet is using it to our advantage which promotes cognitive functions and interpersonal relationships. It is up to us to cling to our past and youth or adapt to the new world youth are creating by remaining active and curious about life.  

Aging is a natural inevitable process so why not age gracefully and joyfully instead of treating it as an aberrant crisis? Accepting the physical changes which come with age with an optimistic perspective and adapting accordingly. Make the aging process look so good that everyone awaits and does not indulge in denial mode. Why not own the lines on the face like a badge of honour, be proud of the roads you have traveled and embrace the process of aging and be content with the wisdom which you have attained? 

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                                       GRATITUDE 

               LIVE IT UP WITH YOGA

Acute gastric reflux with a heavy dose of medications turned my life upside down. My desire to find natural ways of healing made me research and try simple yoga techniques. The assurance from the teacher of complete recovery was enough for me to start practising yoga asanas, pranayama, and mindful meditation. I recovered from the disease and no longer use any medication. Improved quality of life is an added benefit for me. 

The yearning to be fit and healthy is on everyone’s agenda, and it is good to get motivated by famous personalities who are live examples of yoga as a form of keeping fit and healthy. Even though Patanjali I considered the father of Yoga and Yoga-Sutras. Shilpa Shetty’s yoga videos became a rage in the nineties. The contemporary form gets inspired and influenced by Patanjali’s ways, evident from the multi-billion dollar global wellness industry based on yoga. Consistent practice of a few minutes of yoga postures can bring calm and wellness into our stressed modern life. Yoga has moved from the realms of yogis to today’s youth, where some have made it into a profession. Whether the ancient practise or modern form, it is a synonym with health and fitness and will continue to evolve as a codified practise within the lucrative wellness business. 

Yoga has trained me to breathe accurately, honour my body, relinquish what no longer serves me, and stay present in the moment. It is where every cell of the body evolves to be wholesome and sings a melodious tune for the soul.  

Pre-determined notions about yoga stop many to derive its benefits. Working on yoga poses constantly gives you flexibility and strength. Concentrating on your breath and the yoga poses is the perfect cocktail for calmness and serenity. There is a sense of clarity that dawns on you to make the right decisions in any aspect of your life. Yoga requires discipline which soon becomes a habit and the discipline ebbs and flows in other spheres of life too. Once you start practising yoga and see the benefits, you want to eat healthy to remain fit thereby making a lifestyle change. Yoga brings flexibility to our body after a constant period of practising the asanas. Your lung power increases and gain stronger balance reducing the chance of injury from a fall. Along the way, you learn to be an observer who responds to a situation. So challenge yourself for a month and see the difference in yourself. It will transform you inside out. Go out there fit in what works for you in your schedule, keep it short and regular, create a ritual, and stay accountable and consistent to reap the benefits. 

Yoga has made me more disciplined, pursue my purpose in life and wake up happy even if I haven’t slept well. Mindful meditation helped me heal the pain of a broken wrist, and my creative skills have enhanced befog imagination. It was easier to overcome the grief of the loss of my father to make peace with the idea of a life without him and celebrate his life. It is also a great stress buster. A few minutes of breathing exercises followed by my favourite asanas never fail me. Vajra asana after a meal keeps my acidity at bay. Whenever indigestion bothers me, I do not go for an antacid, I sit down in Vajra asana and practise some anulom vilom and I can feel the acid moving down refreshing me completely. Some asanas before sleep, like yoga nidra ensure a good night's sleep anytime. Yoga nidra allows one access to deeper levels of consciousness and a pathway to mediation, a powerful tool for self-discovery and metamorphoses of our beings. 

Every day is a new day. Start with a few deep breaths and feel the magic as it unclogs your mind while stress flies out of the window. Lower heart rate and stable blood pressure are the visible physical benefits. So whether you are excited or hassled, pause,  take a deep breath, and persist for a while to see a difference. It is the beginning of getting into holistic well-being via yoga.

                    Fancy a Cuppa Tea!

In times of coffee breaks, tea break may seem an outdated concept, but tea drinking has not lost its charm. It is the second most consumed beverage in the world. Brewed in myriad ways, from an expensive and exotic drink of the elite to the famous Boston Tea Party to a popular drink of the masses.  Now a whole room at the Metropolitan Museum of Art is dedicated to Tea, the quintessential British symbol from the drink from China.

India is the second-highest tea producer next to China. While the exact origin of tea is unknown, it is believed to have originated in northeast India, north Myanmar, and southwest China according to the UN. The myriad variations of making it range from the Masala tea with lots of milk to the typical English brewed one to the green Matcha to the Turkish one and the varied other tea varieties.

In life, there is no trouble so grave it cannot be diminished with a nicely brewed hot cup of tea which brings people together bringing joy and happiness in our lives. There is also something unique in tea that leads us into the world of quiet contemplation. So sit down, sip your tea slowly without rushing, and let it soothe your being. When you are feeling low and at odds with the world around you, brew a cup of tea and enjoy the magical fragrance as it offers the solace of its kind. You will see your troubles vanishing away.

Tea has been a cure for a long time in history encouraging us to steep and sip our way to good health in life. It has numerous health benefits. Even though many of the therapeutic benefits are yet not substantiated by science, it is high in antioxidants, flavonoids, and polyphenols which help neutralise free radicals in the body, speed up metabolism, boosts the immune system, and have the ability to calm us down and refresh us. When you get your kind of tea when you are out of your home, it makes your day especially when life feels stormy and topsy-turvy, the hot brew will bring tranquility of its kind. It is a therapy for me, I enjoy turmeric tea in the early morning as it is anti-inflammatory, a cup of nicely brewed long-leaf darjeeling one refreshes my being, and a green one in the mid-morning boosts the metabolism while black tea in the afternoon improves the focus and chamomile before bed ensures good sleep at night. Tea with lemon and ginger soothes cold and flu, ginger tea settles the stomach and peppermint helps with digestion. With so many benefits in its kitty, it is truly the elixir of life. There are numerous ways to consume it and each household will have its unique one. The antioxidant levels of both green and black tea make it a popular drink with health-conscious people. 

UN may have its reasons to dedicate 21 May as an International Tea Day. The delectable ritual of preparing the tea, the sound of water bubbling, tea brewing, seeping, and pouring the champagne-coloured drink is therapeutic and meditative for me. In monsoons, Chai and pakora become a quintessential combination while you enjoy the pitter-platter of the rainfall. Cold winter mornings get enlivened as you sip the hot brew while warming your hands while holding the cup. 

When you have found someone to sit with and enjoy your tea, you have found a friend for life. At times, a cup of tea and the company of a good friend is the only therapy we need to take us out of distress as it makes everything better. Sometimes all you need is a cup of tea. 

Ek Garam Chai Ki Payali Ho……..

              AH! THE SPRING IS FINALLY HERE!

The warmth of the rising sun on a spring day awakens our beings as we watch for the signs of spring, the fragrance, growing hours of light, the increasing vibrancy of nature, shrinking of shadows, bluer skies, and get a feeling of renewal and rejuvenation. The dewdrops on the lush green grass, the clear blue spotless sky, and the sun shining bright enough to wake  everyone. The vibrant petunias, smiling pansies, and the summer periwinkle welcome the day with their brightness. The sparkling carpet of wild yellow oxalis blooming amongst the tender grass is inviting humming bees and butterflies to drink the nectar and rejoice.  I slowly hum the Poem by William Wordsworth,

I wandered lonely as a cloud

That floats on high o'er vales and hills,

When all at once I saw a crowd,

A host, of golden daffodils;

Beside the lake, beneath the trees,

Fluttering and dancing in the breeze………..

…….For oft, when on my couch I lie

In vacant or in pensive mood,

They flash upon that inward eye

Which is the bliss of solitude;

And then my heart with pleasure fills,

And dances with the daffodils.

You know spring is unfurling its magic when you wake up to the days full of light, the warm air emanating through the powdery white clouds, the sweet fragrance of the flowers brimming with the dew drops filling the air, and the sweet songs of the birds creating a symphony of music. The scattered burst of colour is all around to welcome the season offering steadiness in these uncertain times. So go out and get some daylight and enjoy the warm sunshine amongst the bountiful and colourful nature. Nature is an unmatched mood enhancer for humans, who love being in her company. Bright light is known to be as effective for depression as medicines, and light exposure during the day is good for our sleep too.

But the climate-troubled days have transposed the weather pattern. Spring was waking up at the end of the winter when it swiftly moved to summer with the temperature rise, and the sudden outburst of rain in the plains and snow in the mountains cooled the temperatures pushing it further away from it. This is terrifying and a stark reminder of the threat to the environment. One wonders why this is not an extensional threat enough to work on climate change. The resilience of nature has a lesson or two for humans as there is no sign of remorse anywhere amongst nature while the lush green trees are swaying in the morning breeze. 

 The Crocus flower, a harbinger of spring is a reminder that no matter how harsh is the winter, spring always returns to the new beginnings of new greens and fragrant air. It rejuvenates our hearts and refreshes our being. We are full of freshness with a heart full of hope and spring in our steps in the cool sunshine of this weather. The world around us is alive with the sweet fragrance and freshness of nature. The heart heals and begins anew when amongst the freshness of nature in springtime. 

                        GRATITUDE

            House Facades Reflect Personality 

Do you ever, like me, love observing houses while out for a walk? You would notice that house facades reflect the inner personalities of the people residing in them, and you can presume their persona by a mere glance. 

A spruced-up soldierly garden echoes the orderly life of a retired army officer occupying the house. A recently constructed posh one with no plants is not the abode of an environmentalist; in contrast, a non-distinct house, with a huge garden and an orchard has an ardent lover of nature residing inside. Shabby chic exterior points to the art enthusiast who loves all things vintage, while unembellished exteriors house a methodical and unpretentious individual there. 

Overgrown creepers, the grass gone wild, and unkept trees camouflaging the parked car, a deserted house. Exotic palms, flowering bushes, and the numerous fruit trees amidst the overgrown plants speak of the interest of the long-gone owners. The closed doors and windows jammed by the creepers hold the stories of people who lived here.  

A simple yet orderly dwelling with minimum plants built generations ago speaks of the elderly retired people living there while a fort-like design with high walls and an arched main gate demonstrate the love of all things royal for the owner.

An extraordinary creative facade has an architect residing there. Prim and properly painted mansion with an overpowering guard box is of a person with a suitable status and wealth. A recently restored house, a mix of traditional and contemporary, with several outdoor seating areas, belongs to someone who treasures the outdoors and is modern yet rooted in tradition.

The identical government houses of the services or the other government employees are similar yet distinct as they reflect the essence of the owner living there. These houses get transformed with every new resident. 

The scenario changes when you see identical multi-story houses in the metros. Zoom in a little closer to the entrance of the flat to understand the persona of the house owner. While you wait for the owner to open the door, you can guess the personality while observing the entrance to the flat. Specks of greenery from far will tell you that the house belongs to a plant lover. An artistic entrance with a curated door and paintings on the wall is an abode of the artist. 

I returned home after a walk and wondered whether it reflected our personality. It does. Homes are the extension of our characters, and the unique differences and complexities make them beautiful. We choose the colours, designs, and patterns according to our choice that dictates everything. Our abodes are our refuge and shelter, reflecting our inner world, which gets shaped through time and experience but never changes completely. 

Our homes are defined and shaped by the personality that dictates what pattern we follow to make the house a home. There is no place like home as it is a piece of our heaven.  

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